Achieving Adulthood - My part of the story 💁😑

Hey Readers, if you’re a teenager, don’t even think about skipping this post - it might give you an idea of what adulthood actually is. 👋👋👋😂😂

With this good one-line intro😝👀, Let's start today's story!!!

When I was a kid, I've always wanted to become an adult (literally the dumbest dream ever I would say). About a decade ago, when I was around 10 or 11, I used to look up to adult life and admire it a lot — I just couldn't wait to grow up (not knowing how adulthood is gonna cook me 😂). When summer hit, my cousins used to visit our home for the holidays. At that time, my cousins were doing their bachelor's, and I was in 4th grade. My cousins used to hang out with their friends, go to movie theaters, go for chill shopping hauls - they even had their own money (their parents gave it to them as pocket money). They studied far from home, enjoyed with their friends during the weekends, took their own decisions about their day-to-day life, and didn’t fear their parents. They just did whatever they wished. Upon seeing all this so-called magical adulthood, the typical teenager inside me always wanted to become an adult. I only saw the colorful side of adulthood and completely failed to notice the reality.

When I started my journey of being an adult (the time when I joined college), I was 18 - a prime age for kick starting adulthood. I was completely thrilled. I started my college life in Coimbatore, which is 100 km away from my hometown (and my parents, of course!!). I began living my life independently and learned how to do things by myself without seeking the help of others. Most importantly, I learned how to travel by bus (which felt like a nightmare during my childhood idk why😂).

I really hated bus travels when I was a kid (even though my bus journeys were rare since I usually traveled with my parents through car and scooty). But after that, I really started loving bus travels and the comfort they give me.

I received a monthly allowance from my parents, which helped me manage my finances. College life taught me how to lavishly spend ₹900 in three weeks and then survive with ₹100 for the last week (by the way, my pocket money was only ₹1000 lol😂). But I'm still grateful to have received that. I really enjoyed weekend outings with my friends, going to movie theaters, visiting good restaurants and having yummy foods. I really got good friends both in hostel and college. And the three years of college life felt wholesome. Adulting was fun as how exactly I imagined it would be.

But adulting is not fully about having fun. In reality, adulting is about maturing, understanding life and people, getting along with family members (which is completely out of my league lol), attending interviews, applying for job at several companies, and then finally getting a job, starting to earn, providing for the family, taking care of parents, upholding responsibilities, etc., etc...
I'm in my twenties right now (soon to be 21). By this time, I should have secured a job - but I haven’t. I'm still searching and working on it. I still have 1 more month to go till I graduate college.
It’s really sad and painful to see my mom doing all the work in her forties (including office work and household chores) while also providing me with food and taking care of my other needs when I come home. I really wish that I secure a job a job within 2 months.

During this period of my life (college), unhealthy adulting influenced me a lot. I became physically weak - my immunity, stamina, and overall health were at their worst. This was the result of overeating junk food and not having enough nutritious meals. I used to stay up all night using my phone and binge-watching series until 12 or 1 a.m. As a result, I woke up late and felt too tired to have hostel breakfast. I even started skipping breakfast, and sometimes lunch too (which is absolutely a bad habit). I didn’t care to study my portions for internals and model exams. I always studied at the last minute for semesters. But thank God, I haven’t kept any arrears till now. I used to study pretty well back in my school days... but I guess adulting hit me hard. 😅
My days were completely unplanned. The only thing I consistently did was scroll through Instagram reels - I ended up wasting a lot of useful time. I failed to take care of myself. When my college life was coming to an end, everything suddenly made sense. I started to hate the way I was living... Life was completely filled with negativity at that point. Of course, I faced a lot of mood swings too.

Adulthood Life starts to suck at 360 degrees when you think and fear of yourself becoming a failure. 

Don’t be afraid. Adulting can actually be fun and healthy - if you don’t repeat the mistakes I made. 💔

Plan your future and work towards it. Make use of the valuable time you have, because once you start working, you won’t be able to find the kind of free time you have now. At the same time, enjoy your adulthood with your friends. Go on small trips, create memories, and don’t leave room for regrets.
Make use of every opportunity you get. Eat healthy, be a better version of yourself, achieve your dreams, make your parents feel proud, stay the same with everyone you meet, and treat everyone equally. 💗💗

Thats all for today.... Just wrote a random thought running in my mind.... 😁😁😅

Catch you all at my next blog!!!💖

Until then, Peace✌